How to deal with dating a married man
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Love in today’s society seems to be so fleeting and have no basis at times.
So, I am a single man in love with a married woman. My affair partner has begun individual counseling to try to find some clarity regarding our situation. UPDATE #3: Well, she’s been divorced for about 9 months now. He has someone who is happy to be with him and shares his values. But I was determined to document the experience to share with anyone else who may be feeling the things I was a couple of years ago. And maybe, just maybe, the next time something like this comes up…
On the surface, it seems like EVERYTHING in my relationship is going my way. She has already told me that when she thinks about the future, she is thinking about me/us and not him. And we are making all the necessary life changes to be ready for our life together. After a couple of months of her living alone, I began staying over more and more. He is finally in a new relationship, too, so that may help everyone involved move forward. My lady and I get to be with the love of our lives. My hope is that it helps open eyes on any side of the equation. you’ll remember something I’ve shared here and have a slightly different perspective.
We’ve sat through some difficult conversations with people (read: family) that has been affected by everything. They’ve been living together for about a year now, too. Take care of your business, end any pre-existing relationships before starting another. She has told me that she knows her real happiness can only be achieved with me. She knows her family (and his) will be devastated and very disappointed in her. A few weeks after this story was posted, we took a trip out of town for a week together. They haven’t completely come around but they are making motions in that direction. We have discussed our intention to marry, but we haven’t firmed up any plans. She has struggled with guilt over how things transpired. She accepts that her marriage is nothing more than a good friendship and always has been. She acknowledges that she’s lived a majority of her life trying to make other people happy and “do the right thing” and never put her own happiness first. The day we came back home, she told her husband about us and asked him to move to his parents’ house. As expected, she got little support or understanding. They finally admitted that they knew the marriage was in trouble for years despite the calm appearance. Have the faith to recognize it, believe it and live it. God continually shows this to be true in ways we can’t even fathom and hope placed in him does not disappoint.I’m not sure we can say the same about others, or ourselves.
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If you've got a question about anything related to singleness or living the single life, please submit it to He Said-She Said (selected questions will be posted anonymously).: My question is to help anyone, born again and followers of Christ, who are in a similar situation as this. How do you get over the other person when there is a disadvantage that you see that person every so often (such as church or work), and you cannot escape?